Having kids, especially girls, in the world that we are currently living in can be a scary thing. This hit me really hard last week when Adalyn started public school for the first time. Adalyn is a strong and independent little girl, but she is still a LITTLE girl. What is she hearing from other kids at school? What will she hear and choose to remember when she encounters people in her everyday life that could potentially affect her spirit?
Recently she started saying to me things like: “Mommy, do you think they will like my dress? “(or hair or shoes or something to do with her physical appearance). She is a beautiful girl, with stunning eyes and gorgeous long, curly hair, but I don’t want that to be the only thing she knows about herself. I have started answering her with “Yes baby, but what people really like is when you are kind, helpful and respectful”.
When Adalyn was a baby, we asked for help from our family and friends to choose some individual words that they thought best suited her. We also chose a scripture that went along with her personality. We did the same thing for Charlotte after she was born and we had large custom posters made for each of our girls with these printed on them and they are displayed in their playroom for them to see every single day. (The prints were custom designed by Hoot Invitations, then printed through our local FedEx.
When we asked our friends to help us with these, one of my dear friends told me what she spoke over her daughter every night at bedtime. I thought it was such a beautiful idea. Honestly, however, I forgot about it until recently when I saw another friend’s post of her doing it with her kiddos on the way to school. I started searching the internet for ideas of what we wanted to speak over our girls. What could we speak over them on a daily basis so they knew not what we wanted to say about them, but what God says about them? I searched specifically for scriptures that did just that and came up with a list that would lift up our girls and give them an identity, not in their physical appearance, or what we or other people say about them, but what God says about them. We say these both at bedtime with Adalyn and on the way to school. I speak them over Charlotte as I rock her to sleep. Our goal is that these become so ingrained in their minds that they will override any negative comments they might encounter from others. After only a couple of weeks of speaking these over her, Adalyn has started saying them all by herself, which brings tears to my eyes to hear.
I pray that our girls will grow up to be strong, independent and compassionate women who will lead people to Christ because they model His love and kindness. These declarations will hopefully be a foundation for this to come to fruition.
Search the Bible…Google…Pinterest…whatever works best for you and choose what stands out most for you and your family. If you have teenagers, have them choose what is hardest for them to believe about themselves and have them write it on their bathroom mirror with dry erase marker so they will see it anytime they look at themselves. You can even do this for yourself!
Here is what we speak over our girls. (I am going to have this printed to hang in their playroom as well.) Feel free to use this as a starting point for your family!
I am loved.
I am strong.
I am intelligent.
I am kind.
I am full of joy.
I am important.
I am a blessing.
I am empowered.
I am a champion.
I am chosen.
I have integrity.
I am the head and not the tail.
I am above and not beneath.
I am a leader, not a follower.
I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.
I am a gift from God.
I am a child of God.
I am God’s workmanship, created to do good works.
God has a purpose and a plan for my life.
I am beautiful on the inside and the outside.